Don’t be put off when people don’t share your passion

Do you sometimes feel like the odd one out when your passions don’t align with what people around you like?

It feels lonely and you can even end up hiding what you love in order to fit in. We’ve all done this at some point in our lives. But how did we grow out of it?

I was recently reminded of this at my local café, when I mentioned to the waitress that I’m just in looove with the surface pattern on their floor. It’s like a little surprise under my feet and makes me want to examine it closely. And the color combination has something traditional, while still being fresh. The pattern brings life into the space and adds depth and character. I sure wouldn’t have bothered with it if it was like every other floor.

The waitress gave me this odd look and replied:

“Actually, the floor is the only thing I hate in this place.”

I was a bit disappointed and also shocked to be reminded that there are people who do not share my passion for surface patterns. It brought back a twinge of the old feeling I used to have…

Maybe you pretended to like the mainstream music your friends were into and hid the fact you also really liked country music? Or maybe you played a mainstream sport, because everyone else did, even though you secretly wanted to do something completely different?

We do this because we’re human and want to fit in. We compromise our true passions, because the feeling of belonging feels a lot better than the possible humiliation. We’re afraid to end up alone, when we don’t do what everyone else does.

But hiding your passions will hurt you in the long run

When I end up doing things I just don’t care about, I feel dull, like I’m wasting important time of my life that I could feel joyful  instead of boring. Yet when I get to plunge into the world of surface patterns, I feel alive, like I’m in line with what I’m supposed to be doing in this world.

Your day can either be filled with meaningful actions or insignificant chores. We all have the same amount of time given, we should spend it engaged in something we love, not something we feel indifferent about. When you do what you love, time flies by, because you are filled with purpose and drive. And feeling inspired just sounds way better than hoping to be finally done with something.

Not all of us are able to incorporate our passion into our day job. But there are other ways you can include your passions in your daily life:

1. Schedule regular time to spend only your passion. Whether this is twice a week or once a day. This way you can look forward to a regular scheduled time doing what you care about.

2. Ask around, perhaps someone around you already does the same thing you love.

3. Find people you can share your passions with.

“OK but what if no one else around me feels the same?”

I totally get you. When I started getting into surface patterns, my friends didn’t get how totally amazing this new world is to me. How alive and happy it makes me feel just looking at the patterns. But the solution is not to go quiet about it, but to find people who share the same passions.

Where are these people likely to hang out? Is there a club or organization you can join? Does someone offer classes where you can learn more about the subject? Can you think of any events where you’ll find like-minded people? Online?

1. Brainstorm where people with the same interests hang out.

2. Make a list of possible clubs or organizations, courses and events and also look for online communities.

3. Get out there. You actually have to leave your home and be brave enough to do something new. Go ahead, it will be worthwhile.

After I left the café, a woman with a lovely patterned dress walked by me. It reminded me, that there are plenty of other people who love what I love, I just have to find them.

 

Over to you

Have you ever had the experience of discovering no-one around you shared your passions? If so, what did you do about it?

Where do you find the people who share your passions? 

 

Simona Cellar is the founder of anomis. A designer who focuses on the element of surprise in her designs. Come on a journey of discovery and find the hidden beauty all around you. Join the mailing list here and get inspiring articles.

Guest post: “Live Sweet Photography”

A few weeks ago I was able to do a guest blog post for the lovely Live Sweet Photography. Lindsey, the portrait photographer, loves capturing the little special moments in life just as much as I like to create them with my surface patterns.

You can read the post right here

livesweetblog

Receive interesting stories like this one via e-mail by entering your email in the right panel.

 

X-Mas cards featured on the Card & gift blog

My new X-Mas cards have been featured in the Christmas cards “Terrific Trees” round up on the lovely card & gift blog.

“From Eco-friendly wonders to luxury cards, today’s Christmas card pick are a ‘top ten’ of greetings cards decorated with fabulous Christmas trees and a few other festive treats.”

01_anomis

You can find all my Christmas cards here.

anomis_xmas3

anomis_xmas7
Receive interesting stories like this one via e-mail by entering your email in the right panel.

New Christmas card collection

It’s that time of the year again – Christmas! If you like a little variety, this Christmas card collection is just the right thing for you.

anomis_xmas_set

This collection is a combination of triangles, plaid and Rudolf, the red nose reindeer. Since I’ve always loved everything about the forest, I chose Rudolf to represent Christmas. You can find all Christmas cards here.

Because each one of you has different preferences of buying your holiday cards, I’ve set up a variety of options:

1. Single cards

If you prefer single cards, choose from the following three designs (Click on image to jump to offer):

anomis_xmas3

anomis_xmas5

anomis_xmas7

2. Variety pack of 3 cards or pack of 6

If you’d like to have one (or two) of each design, then the pack of 3 (or 6) cards is for you (click on image to jump to offer):

anomis_xmas_set

xmas_sets4

3. Pack of 6

If you’d like to have the same design, then choose the pack of 6 cards (click on image to jump to offer):

xmas_sets

xmas_sets3

xmas_sets2

Receive interesting stories like this one via e-mail by entering your email in the right panel.

New Motivational Calendar

Any New Year’s resolutions yet? Me neither. But maybe we can work on some goals together.

anomis_beaver_calendar

I’ve created the eager beaver calendar last year. I actually started a 3-day design challenge two years ago. Over the Christmas holidays I challenge myself to create a calendar within 3 days. I wanted a creative challenge, where I would create content quickly.

I’m a big fan of quotes, because when I have a bad day, these usually help me through the day. So I wanted to somehow include the idea of quotes. And since the new year is always attached to resolutions (that are usually not achieved), I wanted to find a way for people to stay inspired through the year and give them little hints to work on their goals.

Since I have a dog and practically live in the forest, it’s a big source of inspiration for me. I was researching animals that plan and achieve. And so I found the beaver! The beaver always has a goal – build a dam. And step by step he collects tree branches, carries it to the water, until he has accomplished his goal.

The eager beaver calendar is filled with 12 motivational quotes for each month to keep you inspired. Since it’s also a workbook, it will guide you step by step to get you closer to your goal each month. Watch as the eager beaver progresses each month by putting one branch in front of the other until he reaches the other side in the end. And if the beaver can do it, so can you.

You can get more infos and details on the beaver calendar on my etsy site.

Receive interesting stories like this one via e-mail by entering your email in the right panel.

“365 Surface Patterns”-Challenge

What a great project idea! The surface pattern designer Alma Loveland is creating one surface pattern design each day – for 365 days! I’m so inspired, that I want to do this myself. But let’s be honest, I just don’t have the time right now! 😉 In the meantime, check out how Ollibird’s patterns are coming along.

alma_1 alma_2 alma_3 alma_4 alma_5

If you liked this post, follow me for daily updates. Enter your email in the right panel.